Not every homeschool mom begins with a clear calling. Some, like Rebecca, began the homeschooling journey reluctantly, unsure if it was the right decision. There was no grand moment of clarity, nor a carefully structured plan. Many of us start without a robust support system and feel overwhelmed by the weight of this decision. But despite our varied beginnings, there is hope in homeschooling for each of us. Whether you are just starting out or preparing for another year, the desire to do it well is what truly matters.
In this blog, I want to share Rebecca’s journey as a way of encouraging you. Her story is different from yours, but her path from uncertainty to fulfillment will inspire you to start strong and stay the course.
The first day of homeschooling will always be Rebecca’s favorite memory. Surprisingly, she didn’t feel nervous, indecisive, or fearful that day. What she did have was two used wooden desks in her kitchen and a wall covered in alphabet visuals. Her beginning was humble and far from perfect. Back then, Rebecca didn’t know many people who were homeschooled, and the idea of sending her children to a secular school didn’t sit well with her. There weren’t many alternatives at the time.
Over time, however, she started attending homeschool conventions and seminars. These events ignited something in her—a vision of what homeschooling could be. The more she reflected on her children’s unique learning styles and the impact she could make, the more passionate she became about her purpose as their primary teacher, both in academics and in life.
That dream became the foundation of Rebecca’s homeschooling. She carried that sense of purpose through every year, using it as a guide for her schedules, curriculum choices, and expectations. Her two children never questioned whether she had a degree or which curriculum they would use. They simply began, used what they had, and enjoyed the process of learning together.
Homeschooling quickly became more than just academics for Rebecca’s family—it became a way of life. She sought wisdom from others and leaned on Jesus for guidance every step of the way. The decision to homeschool, as most moms know, isn’t one to be made lightly. It’s a big commitment, and with that commitment comes a mix of excitement, anticipation, and anxiety.
Many moms, like Rebecca, often make the decision to homeschool with their children in mind, leaving themselves out of the equation. It’s easy to become overwhelmed as you wonder where to begin. Should you set up a homeschool space? Choose the right curriculum? Create a perfect schedule? These questions are universal, whether you’re new to homeschooling or preparing for another year. And every summer, the question, “Where do I begin?” can pop up again.
The first step in creating a purposeful homeschool is to begin with your "why." Knowing why you chose to homeschool informs how you go about it. Rebecca’s reasons for homeschooling were rooted in a desire to spend quality time with her children, to guide them in their academic and spiritual growth, and to ensure they were grounded in faith. She didn’t want the world to claim their hearts first; she wanted to be the one to guide them through both the little and big things in life. Rebecca didn’t homeschool because she felt fully prepared. She did it because she knew her purpose—to nurture her children’s faith, academics, and character—was more important than having everything figured out.
Even with a clear sense of your "why," doubts will inevitably creep in. You may be confident in many areas of your life, but homeschooling is intimidating. The pressure to become a teacher when you may not see yourself as one can be overwhelming. Doubt can make you question your abilities, but it doesn’t have to define you.
Rebecca learned that when doubts start seeping in, it’s important to stop, step back, and remind yourself that there is a bigger picture. Homeschooling is a marathon, not a sprint. The hard moments will pass, and the rewards will come with time.
Say this aloud: “I am a significant small piece of God’s larger plan.”
There will always be challenges, but the rewards far outweigh the difficulties in the end. Even if you can’t see the fruit of your labor yet, trust that God does. He holds creation in His hands and has a plan for every aspect of your life, including your homeschool journey.
Your "why" will evolve as you go, growing stronger with each step you take in faith. It may feel weak today, full of unknowns, but someday you will look back and see the rewards. The key is to trust the process and remember that God knows the end before we even begin.
The foundation of a successful homeschool journey lies in casting aside doubts and creating a strong vision. Rebecca has homeschooled for over three decades, and the vision she started with has not only sustained her but has come full circle, blessing her in ways she never imagined.
Take time to reflect on your family’s unique needs and how homeschooling will look for you. Start by answering these questions:
- Do you see homeschooling as an opportunity to spend more time with your children?
- Do you want to grow closer as a family?
- Do you want to teach your children in ways that suit their individual learning styles?
- Can you give them more focused one-on-one time?
- Do you want to walk alongside them in both their struggles and successes?
- Are you committed to nurturing their gifts and helping them grow in their relationship with the Lord?
By reflecting on these questions, you can develop a "why" vision and statement that will help sustain you when homeschooling gets tough.
As you develop your homeschool vision, draw on the wisdom of Scripture. Consider these verses from Deuteronomy 6:5-9 as a foundation for your homeschooling:
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” — Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (KJV)
This passage provides guidance and reassurance for your homeschooling journey. Let’s break it down:
Love the LORD your God with all your heart:
- God called you to homeschool, and He will be with you through every step.
- Homeschooling allows you to model godliness for your children, nurturing their spiritual growth as well as their academic success.
And with all your soul:
- Homeschooling can be exhausting, but God provides the rest and refreshment you need.
- A close relationship with God will help you stay spiritually nourished, enabling you to pour love into your homeschooling efforts.
And with all your strength:
- Building your relationship with God strengthens your ability to homeschool with purpose and grace.
- Loving God with all your strength creates a firm foundation for both your family and your homeschooling vision.
One of the most powerful aspects of homeschooling is the opportunity to consistently impress God’s truths on your children’s hearts. Rebecca remembers lying awake some nights, worrying that she hadn’t taught her children anything meaningful that day. But as she reflected on the moments when they discussed God’s Word at breakfast or worked through conflicts together, she realized that these daily interactions were shaping their hearts in ways that would last a lifetime.
It wasn’t just the structured lessons that mattered, but the countless small moments—during arguments, over chores, while driving to activities—when God’s love and truth became part of their lives.
Homeschooling provides a unique opportunity to redeem the time. Every day spent together is an opportunity to teach, encourage, and guide your children. You have the privilege of modeling godliness in your actions and showing your children how to live out God’s commandments in their daily lives.
As you go through each day, consider the moments that allow you to talk with your children about God’s faithfulness. Whether you’re teaching a lesson or resolving sibling squabbles, every moment is an opportunity to shape their hearts for the better.
Here are some practical action steps to keep your homeschool journey on track:
1. Set Aside Time for Reflection: Spend time each week reflecting on your "why" and how your homeschooling aligns with it. Make any necessary adjustments to ensure you stay true to your purpose.
2. Create a Vision Statement: Write down your homeschooling vision, including your why and the goals you have for your children. Revisit this statement whenever you feel overwhelmed.
3. Start Each Day in Prayer: Begin every day by surrendering your homeschooling to God. Ask Him for wisdom, patience, and the strength to lead your children well.
4. Celebrate Small Wins: Focus on small victories each day, whether it’s a great conversation or a breakthrough in learning. Celebrating these moments will keep you encouraged.
5. Ask for Help: You don’t have to do this alone. Seek support from other homeschool moms, friends, or family members when you need a helping hand.
6. Incorporate Biblical Lessons: Make room for God’s Word in your daily lessons. Whether through devotionals, memory verses, or discussions, keep faith at the center of your homeschool.
7. Give Yourself Grace: Understand that homeschooling is a journey, not a sprint. You won’t get everything perfect every day, and that’s okay. Offer yourself grace just as God does. Mistakes are learning opportunities for both you and your children.
8. Take Breaks When Needed: Don’t be afraid to pause the academics if you or your children are feeling overwhelmed. Step outside, take a walk, or have a quiet time of reflection. Breaks can rejuvenate the spirit and reset focus.
9. Incorporate Fun: Learning should be enjoyable! Incorporate activities like nature walks, hands-on projects, or even “field trips” to break up the routine and inject joy into your homeschool days.
10. Stay Connected to Community: Surround yourself with a homeschool community that encourages and supports you. Whether it’s online groups, local co-ops, or other homeschool families, having a network can help you stay grounded and inspired.
10 Tips for Finding Purpose and Peace in Homeschooling
1. Start with Your Why: Know why you’ve chosen to homeschool and let that purpose guide you through challenging times. Write it down, revisit it, and let it anchor you when things feel overwhelming.
2. Establish a Routine: While flexibility is important, having a general routine can create stability for both you and your children. A routine helps manage expectations and keeps the days from becoming chaotic.
3. Don’t Overcomplicate Curriculum Choices: You don’t need the “perfect” curriculum to succeed. Choose materials that align with your children’s needs and your teaching style, and don’t be afraid to adjust if something doesn’t work.
4. Celebrate the Small Wins: Not every day will feel like a victory, but there will be moments—however small—worth celebrating. Recognize and rejoice in these moments.
5. Take Breaks: Give yourself and your children grace to pause, rest, and reset as needed. Stepping away for a moment can bring fresh energy and focus to the day.
6. Incorporate Fun and Joy: Learning doesn’t have to be a chore. Bring joy into your homeschool through creative projects, outdoor activities, or family adventures that make learning enjoyable.
7. Draw Strength from God’s Word: Stay rooted in Scripture. Start your day in prayer, seek wisdom from the Bible, and let God’s Word guide how you teach and lead your family.
8. Build a Support Network: Find other homeschool moms or a co-op to lean on. Sharing the journey with others helps combat isolation and offers valuable encouragement.
9. Be Flexible: While routines are helpful, don’t be afraid to pivot when things aren’t going as planned. Sometimes adjusting the schedule, curriculum, or expectations is the key to maintaining peace.
10. Trust the Process: Homeschooling is a long-term investment. Trust that even when the day feels difficult, God is working through you and your children to fulfill His purpose.
Homeschooling is a unique and rewarding journey filled with challenges and moments of incredible joy. Like Rebecca, you may not have begun with a perfect plan or complete confidence, but your commitment to your children and your purpose will guide you through. Remember to begin with your why, stay rooted in God’s Word, and trust in His provision for your family.
God has called you to this journey, and He will equip you with the strength and wisdom you need. Each day is a step toward shaping not only your children’s education but also their hearts. The seeds you plant today will bear fruit in the future, even when the work feels hard.
Homeschooling is not about perfection; it’s about faithfulness. So, embrace the journey, give yourself grace, and know that God is walking alongside you every step of the way
A Heartfelt Message to the Burned-Out Homeschool Mom: Finding Your Way Back to Joy and Connection
Not every homeschool mom begins with a clear calling. Some, like Rebecca, began the homeschooling journey reluctantly, unsure if it was the right decision. There was no grand moment of clarity, nor a carefully structured plan. Many of us start without a robust support system and feel overwhelmed by the weight of this decision. But despite our varied beginnings, there is hope in homeschooling for each of us. Whether you are just starting out or preparing for another year, the desire to do it well is what truly matters.
In this blog, I want to share Rebecca’s journey as a way of encouraging you. Her story is different from yours, but her path from uncertainty to fulfillment will inspire you to start strong and stay the course.
The first day of homeschooling will always be Rebecca’s favorite memory. Surprisingly, she didn’t feel nervous, indecisive, or fearful that day. What she did have was two used wooden desks in her kitchen and a wall covered in alphabet visuals. Her beginning was humble and far from perfect. Back then, Rebecca didn’t know many people who were homeschooled, and the idea of sending her children to a secular school didn’t sit well with her. There weren’t many alternatives at the time.
Over time, however, she started attending homeschool conventions and seminars. These events ignited something in her—a vision of what homeschooling could be. The more she reflected on her children’s unique learning styles and the impact she could make, the more passionate she became about her purpose as their primary teacher, both in academics and in life.
That dream became the foundation of Rebecca’s homeschooling. She carried that sense of purpose through every year, using it as a guide for her schedules, curriculum choices, and expectations. Her two children never questioned whether she had a degree or which curriculum they would use. They simply began, used what they had, and enjoyed the process of learning together.
Homeschooling quickly became more than just academics for Rebecca’s family—it became a way of life. She sought wisdom from others and leaned on Jesus for guidance every step of the way. The decision to homeschool, as most moms know, isn’t one to be made lightly. It’s a big commitment, and with that commitment comes a mix of excitement, anticipation, and anxiety.
Many moms, like Rebecca, often make the decision to homeschool with their children in mind, leaving themselves out of the equation. It’s easy to become overwhelmed as you wonder where to begin. Should you set up a homeschool space? Choose the right curriculum? Create a perfect schedule? These questions are universal, whether you’re new to homeschooling or preparing for another year. And every summer, the question, “Where do I begin?” can pop up again.
The first step in creating a purposeful homeschool is to begin with your "why." Knowing why you chose to homeschool informs how you go about it. Rebecca’s reasons for homeschooling were rooted in a desire to spend quality time with her children, to guide them in their academic and spiritual growth, and to ensure they were grounded in faith. She didn’t want the world to claim their hearts first; she wanted to be the one to guide them through both the little and big things in life. Rebecca didn’t homeschool because she felt fully prepared. She did it because she knew her purpose—to nurture her children’s faith, academics, and character—was more important than having everything figured out.
Even with a clear sense of your "why," doubts will inevitably creep in. You may be confident in many areas of your life, but homeschooling is intimidating. The pressure to become a teacher when you may not see yourself as one can be overwhelming. Doubt can make you question your abilities, but it doesn’t have to define you.
Rebecca learned that when doubts start seeping in, it’s important to stop, step back, and remind yourself that there is a bigger picture. Homeschooling is a marathon, not a sprint. The hard moments will pass, and the rewards will come with time.
Say this aloud: “I am a significant small piece of God’s larger plan.”
There will always be challenges, but the rewards far outweigh the difficulties in the end. Even if you can’t see the fruit of your labor yet, trust that God does. He holds creation in His hands and has a plan for every aspect of your life, including your homeschool journey.
Your "why" will evolve as you go, growing stronger with each step you take in faith. It may feel weak today, full of unknowns, but someday you will look back and see the rewards. The key is to trust the process and remember that God knows the end before we even begin.
The foundation of a successful homeschool journey lies in casting aside doubts and creating a strong vision. Rebecca has homeschooled for over three decades, and the vision she started with has not only sustained her but has come full circle, blessing her in ways she never imagined.
Take time to reflect on your family’s unique needs and how homeschooling will look for you. Start by answering these questions:
- Do you see homeschooling as an opportunity to spend more time with your children?
- Do you want to grow closer as a family?
- Do you want to teach your children in ways that suit their individual learning styles?
- Can you give them more focused one-on-one time?
- Do you want to walk alongside them in both their struggles and successes?
- Are you committed to nurturing their gifts and helping them grow in their relationship with the Lord?
By reflecting on these questions, you can develop a "why" vision and statement that will help sustain you when homeschooling gets tough.
As you develop your homeschool vision, draw on the wisdom of Scripture. Consider these verses from Deuteronomy 6:5-9 as a foundation for your homeschooling:
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” — Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (KJV)
This passage provides guidance and reassurance for your homeschooling journey. Let’s break it down:
Love the LORD your God with all your heart:
- God called you to homeschool, and He will be with you through every step.
- Homeschooling allows you to model godliness for your children, nurturing their spiritual growth as well as their academic success.
And with all your soul:
- Homeschooling can be exhausting, but God provides the rest and refreshment you need.
- A close relationship with God will help you stay spiritually nourished, enabling you to pour love into your homeschooling efforts.
And with all your strength:
- Building your relationship with God strengthens your ability to homeschool with purpose and grace.
- Loving God with all your strength creates a firm foundation for both your family and your homeschooling vision.
One of the most powerful aspects of homeschooling is the opportunity to consistently impress God’s truths on your children’s hearts. Rebecca remembers lying awake some nights, worrying that she hadn’t taught her children anything meaningful that day. But as she reflected on the moments when they discussed God’s Word at breakfast or worked through conflicts together, she realized that these daily interactions were shaping their hearts in ways that would last a lifetime.
It wasn’t just the structured lessons that mattered, but the countless small moments—during arguments, over chores, while driving to activities—when God’s love and truth became part of their lives.
Homeschooling provides a unique opportunity to redeem the time. Every day spent together is an opportunity to teach, encourage, and guide your children. You have the privilege of modeling godliness in your actions and showing your children how to live out God’s commandments in their daily lives.
As you go through each day, consider the moments that allow you to talk with your children about God’s faithfulness. Whether you’re teaching a lesson or resolving sibling squabbles, every moment is an opportunity to shape their hearts for the better.
Here are some practical action steps to keep your homeschool journey on track:
1. Set Aside Time for Reflection: Spend time each week reflecting on your "why" and how your homeschooling aligns with it. Make any necessary adjustments to ensure you stay true to your purpose.
2. Create a Vision Statement: Write down your homeschooling vision, including your why and the goals you have for your children. Revisit this statement whenever you feel overwhelmed.
3. Start Each Day in Prayer: Begin every day by surrendering your homeschooling to God. Ask Him for wisdom, patience, and the strength to lead your children well.
4. Celebrate Small Wins: Focus on small victories each day, whether it’s a great conversation or a breakthrough in learning. Celebrating these moments will keep you encouraged.
5. Ask for Help: You don’t have to do this alone. Seek support from other homeschool moms, friends, or family members when you need a helping hand.
6. Incorporate Biblical Lessons: Make room for God’s Word in your daily lessons. Whether through devotionals, memory verses, or discussions, keep faith at the center of your homeschool.
7. Give Yourself Grace: Understand that homeschooling is a journey, not a sprint. You won’t get everything perfect every day, and that’s okay. Offer yourself grace just as God does. Mistakes are learning opportunities for both you and your children.
8. Take Breaks When Needed: Don’t be afraid to pause the academics if you or your children are feeling overwhelmed. Step outside, take a walk, or have a quiet time of reflection. Breaks can rejuvenate the spirit and reset focus.
9. Incorporate Fun: Learning should be enjoyable! Incorporate activities like nature walks, hands-on projects, or even “field trips” to break up the routine and inject joy into your homeschool days.
10. Stay Connected to Community: Surround yourself with a homeschool community that encourages and supports you. Whether it’s online groups, local co-ops, or other homeschool families, having a network can help you stay grounded and inspired.
10 Tips for Finding Purpose and Peace in Homeschooling
1. Start with Your Why: Know why you’ve chosen to homeschool and let that purpose guide you through challenging times. Write it down, revisit it, and let it anchor you when things feel overwhelming.
2. Establish a Routine: While flexibility is important, having a general routine can create stability for both you and your children. A routine helps manage expectations and keeps the days from becoming chaotic.
3. Don’t Overcomplicate Curriculum Choices: You don’t need the “perfect” curriculum to succeed. Choose materials that align with your children’s needs and your teaching style, and don’t be afraid to adjust if something doesn’t work.
4. Celebrate the Small Wins: Not every day will feel like a victory, but there will be moments—however small—worth celebrating. Recognize and rejoice in these moments.
5. Take Breaks: Give yourself and your children grace to pause, rest, and reset as needed. Stepping away for a moment can bring fresh energy and focus to the day.
6. Incorporate Fun and Joy: Learning doesn’t have to be a chore. Bring joy into your homeschool through creative projects, outdoor activities, or family adventures that make learning enjoyable.
7. Draw Strength from God’s Word: Stay rooted in Scripture. Start your day in prayer, seek wisdom from the Bible, and let God’s Word guide how you teach and lead your family.
8. Build a Support Network: Find other homeschool moms or a co-op to lean on. Sharing the journey with others helps combat isolation and offers valuable encouragement.
9. Be Flexible: While routines are helpful, don’t be afraid to pivot when things aren’t going as planned. Sometimes adjusting the schedule, curriculum, or expectations is the key to maintaining peace.
10. Trust the Process: Homeschooling is a long-term investment. Trust that even when the day feels difficult, God is working through you and your children to fulfill His purpose.
Homeschooling is a unique and rewarding journey filled with challenges and moments of incredible joy. Like Rebecca, you may not have begun with a perfect plan or complete confidence, but your commitment to your children and your purpose will guide you through. Remember to begin with your why, stay rooted in God’s Word, and trust in His provision for your family.
God has called you to this journey, and He will equip you with the strength and wisdom you need. Each day is a step toward shaping not only your children’s education but also their hearts. The seeds you plant today will bear fruit in the future, even when the work feels hard.
Homeschooling is not about perfection; it’s about faithfulness. So, embrace the journey, give yourself grace, and know that God is walking alongside you every step of the way
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